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Rant of the Week: Negative Nancys.

It’s 5am, and I need to rant.

Honestly, before 10am a lot of things could push me into rant mode….we all know I rely on coffee every morning and that I don’t truly wake up until about 10am. This particular rant has been on my mind for awhile, and while I have ranted briefly about it on social media before, I feel it needs addressed again.

Negative Nancys.

Ugh!

I think often about a quote I read awhile back about how strong women build others up as opposed to tearing them down. It is absolutely true. In my industry I have been very lucky to meet so many women (and men) that are uplifting, kind, and supportive. If I ever need a self esteem boost or pep talk, I know I could go to any one of them and feel rejuvenated within seconds. It is a really great feeling to have a solid support system of people who truly want you to succeed.

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Why are there not more people doing that? Encouraging, supporting, cheering on others? The constant cutting down, especially on social media, is like a silent hate crime, and it makes me incredibly sad.

This morning I had to get up early to take Kyle to the bus station for a fun guys’ weekend away, so I was able to knock out my workout and some office tasks early. The first thing I saw when I signed onto Facebook was someone posting about a particular product that she was very excited to try and several people jumping all over her for trying it. It made me feel so bad for her because you could see in her response the negativity deflated the excitement.

I think back to when I was beginning my health journey all the time…I can’t believe that the end of this month marks 2 years since I was at the awful, sad, scared, uncomfortable, embarrassed stage of my life! While I was uncertain about so many things back then, the two things I did know were 1) I needed to find something that worked for me and my life and 2) That I needed a supportive community to help me. I was lucky enough to find both, which ultimately led me to losing 60 pounds and starting a career that really means the world to me. I hate to think what would’ve happened if some negative nancy started riding me about my decisions back then.

Please laser focus in on one point I just made. needed to find something that worked for me and my life. 

There are a lot of products out there that can help you. A whole freaking lot. Sometimes it can be confusing or overwhelming because you have no clue what to try or what to do. I chose my vehicle for a healthier life carefully. Things I knew before I got started: I wasn’t interested in any of those wrap things or “magic” pills to help me lose weight or become healthier. I knew I needed something to help with being on the go (insert Shakeology here), and a workout program that wasn’t too long and that I could do at home at weird times of the day based on my work schedule (hello, T25). I also knew I didn’t want a quick fix, rather something that was a lifestyle change. Before purchasing those two I had failed miserably at many other products, had tried products that I hadn’t done research on, I tried diets that had me mass eliminating food groups, and overall, I felt like a lost puppy. Finding the right workout program sometimes is like dating…..you have to give some things a shot before you find “the one.”

Clearly I am over the moon about the products and programs I have used with Beachbody because they have completely changed my life. THAT IS ME. I know some things may not appeal to everyone, but that doesn’t mean I am going to stop supporting you if you do think that a wrap or weight loss supplement is the way to go. Yes, I would love to be able to help absolutely everyone on the planet feel better about themselves, but part of doing that means you are supportive.

I could keep going on and on and on, but I am going to close with this…..this is not Mean Girls. No one should sit around behind their computer and try to cut people down for trying to find a way to get their life going in a healthier direction. Let people try things and figure out what works for them. Everyone is wearing their own pair of shoes, and unless you can find a way to magically walk a day in their lives, stop telling people that what they are doing is stupid or a waste of time. You may believe in yourself and your abilities, but not everyone is so lucky. Some individuals really need the encouragement and support to know they can do it…..be the person who builds them up instead of cutting them down. It can make all the difference in someone’s life.

If you are reading this and you are one of those people who have been negative nancied, ignore the comments and nastiness and know that you can do absolutely anything as long as you want to succeed. If you need me to pep talk you every morning, it can be arranged.  And sometimes you just have to know when to say #byefelicia to negative nancys in your life.

Be the good.

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Shaun T and I are like peas and carrots.

Ok, maybe I just have been eating a lot of peas and carrots and have them on my brain. Regardless, you get the idea. We are like virtual BFFs….he just doesn’t know it yet.

However, in 41 days I will be in Nashville getting to work out right next to my man Shaun T and getting to talk with him, and you better believe I am going to tell him how much he has changed my life. And then I will cry. Yep, that’s a guarantee.

I. Can’t. Wait. In fact, I have an app on my phone with Shaun T’s face and a countdown. It is going to be great. Oh yeah, it’s also going to hit during my birthday week, and I think we all know how I like to celebrate my birthday………

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This week started Week 3 of Round 3 of my T25 journey with one of my clients. After the  last post I wrote on our joint T25 experience, I realized that I needed to give this client, who has asked to be anonymous, a name for blog purposes. I understand her desire to keep things on the DL, but referring to her over and over as “The Client” makes me feel like Im hanging out with Brad Renfro, and I don’t really dig that. Moving forward, I am going to simply refer to her as Tania the Machine.

Now, if you have rocked out T25, you know EXACTLY who Tania the Machine is…..she is Shaun T’s right hand lady and also the modifier in the T25 workouts (Beachbody lingo…the modifier is someone who does the same movements, just at a lesser impact. She is a great resource for beginners!). Check out these pics….Tania’s before and afters. She had a baby and used T25 to get those abs of steel back. I like to think of Tania as a quiet riot….when I first saw her, I had no clue what a bad ass she is. Now I know.

This photo courtesy of Tania's FB page.

This photo courtesy of Tania’s FB page.

Back to my Tania the machine, the lovely lady who challenged me to complete T25 alongside her. How is she doing?

FANTASTIC!

Every day Tania and I have communication. She texts me after her workouts, tells me how they went, tells me what she was most proud of completing, and shares where she needs to improve. You see, my job as a coach is so much more than posting cute selfies on FB ( No shame in my selfie game….just saying). It’s about holding those who choose to work with me accountable and helping them stay on track. It’s about helping them meal plan and find a way to LIKE healthier options. It’s about being that one person that serves as a cheerleader when you think the whole world is against you. Every Sunday, as I do with all of my challengers, I have Tania send me her meal plan for the week. The meal plan is always a beginner’s nemesis. You don’t know why you have to plan all these meals out and you certainly don’t want to spend time on Sunday portioning out ground beef when you could be indulging in a Sex and the City marathon. In time, you get it. You do it, and in time, it becomes a part of your weekly routine. Meal planning and prep is the single most underestimated tool in the war against obesity. Just plan, people! And if you are local to me, I will even come help you do it.

Being in Week 3 means one thing: We are almost done with the Alpha workout block, which lasts a month. Once this is complete, we move onto Beta, which is another 4 weeks. The time flies when you are doing pike ups, I tell ya.

On the first day of this challenge, I made something very clear. NO SCALE. We weigh ourselves the first day, and we weigh ourselves on Day 60. The scale is the other nemesis my challengers face. I was once a scale addict, too….stepping on that thing constantly and beating myself up when I wasn’t losing weight.

Here’s a newsflash: you need to focus on the NSVs. What does that mean?

THE NON SCALE VICTORIES!

This is exactly how Tania and I have been measuring our success these past three weeks. Let’s take a look at some of our favorite NSVs………

Tania’s NSVs

– Started the program using the modifier 100% of the time; now using modifier about 20% of the time

-Completed 2 real pushups with perfect form

-Stopped taking the elevator at work

-Has not had a Diet Coke in 3 weeks

-Pants feel looser and her once favorite dress is now too big

-Feels more confident in groups because she feels good about herself

-Has not missed a single workout

My NSVs

-Have not missed a single workout

-Completed every single oblique knee pushup in every Total Body Cardio workout (I used to not even be able to do one)

-Pants and skirts feel looser

-Said NO to my mother’s delicious home made Strawberry Shortcake because I had not planned for a cheat that day

-Finally can do a Pike Up without looking like a complete moron

-Have eliminated gluten from my meal plan and feel healthier, cleaner, less bloated, and not as sluggish

Feeling like Wonder Woman 3 weeks in!

Feeling like Wonder Woman 3 weeks in!

This T25 game clearly isn’t new to me. I know I’ve lost weight. BBBUUUUTTTTTTTTTTT the one lesson that I have learned and that is the most important thing I can share with all of you is:

The Non Scale Victories are where it’s at……it’s not about the number on the scale, but how you feel. 

The thing with T25 that I constantly think about is how hard it was for me the first time. I’m not saying it is easy now…nothing with Shaun T IS EVER EASY……but I downright struggled every day with the workouts that now I am killing. I could’ve given up every day. I could’ve told myself being fat and feeling like garbage was ok. I could’ve talked myself into skipping workouts every day and watched television instead. I could’ve settled for a life of elastic waist pants that grew with me as I shoved disgusting fast food down my throat.

I didn’t. Because I didn’t, I am now stronger and able to do things I couldn’t do the first time I did this program. I shared this with Tania after the first week when she was convinced she would never be able to do some of the moves without modification. Every day you do something, you are making progress. You are one day closer to meeting whatever goal it is that you have. Giving up won’t get you there. Believing in yourself and doing it…..even if that means doing a Pike Up looking like a complete mess like I did for a looooonnnnngggggg time…..will eventually get you to the point where you can say, “I did it.

I am so proud of Tania for sticking with a program that will completely change her life. In fact, I know it already has.

And for those of you who wonder why I love Shaun T so much, here’s a little video from Beachbody’s Summit in 2013. His passion, his love for what he does…..that is what inspires me every day to give everything I have to my clients and challengers.

This guy helped me get my life back. 41 days from now I will get to tell him this in person.

I have goosebumps and tears in my eyes just thinking about it.

Inspiring someone is the greatest thing you can ever do. Don’t waste that gift.

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