Ruben Studdard, there is your plug for the one song you managed to squeak out after American Idol. Bask it its glory.
In all actuality, it really isn’t a bad song. If you haven’t listened to the velvet teddy bear (or whatever people called him during AI), I wouldn’t say drop everything and download it on Itunes, but check it out when you have some downtime. The song itself is about a man apologizing for a year of agony and hurt that he has caused the woman who loved him, and while it is a bit cheesy, there is something about it that I really like. Maybe it is because I’m at a point where I feel I am owed a few apologies from some people who have really, really hurt me.
Apologies. I’ve been thinking a lot about them lately. It’s no secret that I’ve been through the wringer with some people who I sincerely thought cared about me and were glad to have me in my life. I’m one of those people who wears their heart on their sleeve, very proudly I might add, but the downside of that is I’ve put myself out there (in some cases multiple times) to end up with the same result = hurt……and that just isn’t fun, especially when you can’t pinpoint what you did to instigate such horrible behavior. You know what is worse? Having someone hurt you who doesn’t even care enough to acknowledge that they wronged you.
No one is perfect, especially not me. I made mistakes all of the time, and I know I have hurt people, which I am not proud of. I’ve really been trying to hold myself more accountable for the things I do, and when I know I’ve hurt someone’s feelings, I try to do whatever I can to make it right. Life is just too short. With that being said, sometimes you have to know when to say when. This year I’ve had to accept that some very important people in my life were simply toxic people, and the time came to cut them out of my life. Friendships/Relationships must be a two way street and never one sided. Because of that I’ve chosen to turn my back and eliminate someone who was once a dear friend of mine as well as end all communication with a family member, two decisions that were not easy but needed to be done. I would’ve thought at this point in my life that I wouldn’t have to deal with these kind of situations, but the reality is that as we get older, friendships and relationships that once were strong fizzle or show their true colors. Sometimes the people you love more than anything don’t appreciate you…it’s a reality that I’m finding is much harder to deal with than I ever could’ve imagined.
Yes, I know….this post lacks the humor and sarcasm that is usually sprinkled throughout my writing, but I’m okay with that. I know it is hard to believe, but there is a very serious side to me that many don’t get to experience. While it is no secret that lately I have been embracing more of a hermit-like lifestyle than usual, I am thankful for all of the insight the down time has shown me. Sometimes it is good to re-evaluate the relationships we have in our lives and their worth.
When you hurt someone, apologize. Even if you think someone won’t forgive you, they will feel better knowing you have some remorse for your actions or the hurt you have caused. For those of you who don’t know how to apologize, I have included a form that may help, or you can access it directly from here.
“Apologizing does not always mean you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.”